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Clearly nobody is being particularly ill-treated. Now, overall, I don't mind any of these scenes because I know quite a few children. This sort of thing and more is exactly what they come up with when they're playing pretend. If you think children do not play-act violence you are very much mistaken. They do. They do it because it's exciting. They do it because it's fun to practice being really bad in a safe way that doesn't actually harm anyone, when in real life they work so hard to be GOOD. They do it because these things scare them and playing them makes them less scary.

They do because the stories they are exposed to have violence there, explicit or implied, and they want to understand that. They do because you can't have a good story without a villain. And children have been doing this for as long as there have been children to play pretend at all. I do not believe that this is in any way linked to actual violence when these children grow up. Obviously if your child is bothered by this sort of pretend violence, don't read them this book.

Or if you are. However, truthfully, I don't think it's that big a deal in this context. Mar 01, Cassandra Gelvin rated it did not like it. I have changed my mind on this. Upon a second look: I remembered really liking this book when I read it almost a year ago. But now that I look at it again, I'm frankly disappointed by the gender breakdown of the situations.

The boy character gets to receive a pet baby elephant, rescue a princess from a dragon, portray a cowboy, be bitten by a dinosaur, be the groom at a wedding, attend the princess's ball, visit London to dine with the Queen, fly an airplane to visit the Duchess, and invite all hi I have changed my mind on this. The boy character gets to receive a pet baby elephant, rescue a princess from a dragon, portray a cowboy, be bitten by a dinosaur, be the groom at a wedding, attend the princess's ball, visit London to dine with the Queen, fly an airplane to visit the Duchess, and invite all his friends over for a party.

The girl character gets to pick flowers, be rescued, be a nurse, go shopping, be the bride in a wedding, be a Princess, be a Queen, be a Duchess, and be captured. This is such a pity, because it's genuinely funny, and that's what I remembered about it. And Maurice Sendak's illustrations are so charming. I'd like to give Sendak the benefit of the doubt and say that if he had illustrated this today, he would have been more inclusive, but I can't in good conscience read this to my kids or let other adults read it to them and reinforce these stereotypes.

Such a waste of potential. Original review: Okay, please stop gnawing on my face. Some of the illustrations are a little gender-normative, as it is from the late s. There are a lot of manners books out there. I'm guessing there were even more back when this one was written. This one is a lighthearted satire of these types of books, with silly situations that kids are never going to get into, like being a cowboy, or being menaced by a dragon.

It puts "please" and "thank you" and similar phrases into weird situations. It's very silly. I think that children will definitely understand because it's always being drilled into young children how they should be polite at every turn. These ridiculous situations will entertain the children as well as teach them actual manners. People are always wanting you to be polite even when you bump into a crocodile in the middle of the road or when you crash your airplane into somebody's roof.

Message: Be polite. Mar 12, Krista the Krazy Kataloguer rated it it was amazing Shelves: read-caldecott , read-childrens-books , read-own. This was one of my favorite books as a child.

The format, where the question is asked on one page and you turn the page for the answer, is very appealing to kids who like surprises. The illustrations add humor and deserved the Caldecott Honor. Jan 31, Heather rated it really liked it Shelves: from-library , manners. Still a good read and lots of good manners displayed. Mar 06, Roger rated it really liked it Shelves: children.

What a great fun way to teach children good manners. With drawings by Maurice Sendak. For example, what do you say if you get bit by a dinosaur and a nurse comes and saves your life?

Also I wish I could give copies to some of my clients. I couldn't find the French edition listed, which is what I read in attempts to practice my French literacy. It was a cute read. Wish I had picked it up in time to have read it with my French first grader, dommage. Mar 19, Lala rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: the human species. The only manners I've ever learned were from this book.

Oct 10, Bethany rated it really liked it Shelves: childrens. And goodreads reunites me with yet another forgotten book from my childhood! I love you, goodreads. Feb 25, Chara rated it really liked it Shelves: good-picture-books.

This is a hilarious way to teach kids manners and it has the most bizarre scenarios. As a kid, I don't believe I appreciate it as much as I currently do. But, now I understand it better and I find it delightful. The pictures add to the story, and they give the visual that cements the bizareness of it all. It is completely entertaining read. Aug 12, Kimberly rated it liked it. Literature Genre: Juvenile Fiction Awards: Recieved Randolph Caldecott Medal in Ages: years This is a book about manners, and it even states on the title page that it is "A handbook of etiquette for young ladies and gentleman to be used as a guide for everyday social behavior".

One thing to keep in mind is that this book was written in , and the dialog and illustrations would have been more appropriate in that era, but problematic today. The story is made up of imaginative scenarios in Literature Genre: Juvenile Fiction Awards: Recieved Randolph Caldecott Medal in Ages: years This is a book about manners, and it even states on the title page that it is "A handbook of etiquette for young ladies and gentleman to be used as a guide for everyday social behavior". The story is made up of imaginative scenarios involving a young boy and his ridiculous encounters with various characters, which are followed up by the question "What do you say dear?

On the next page would be the proper response such as "thank you", "no thank you", "your welcome", "excuse me", "I beg your pardon", and so on. From a feminist approach, I find it a little insulting that the females in the illustrations are always the princess, queen, nurse, duchess, damsel in distress and in fancy clothing. In contrast, the boy gets to be a pilot, pirate, cowboy, knight, etc.

Thankfully, society has grown since the late 's, and women now enjoy the opportunity to be whatever they wish to be: a pilot, doctor, lawyer, even a president--or in this story, be the one riding the horse, catching the bad guy, or slaying the dragon! While I found this book comical, it did provide a good lesson concerning the importance of manners that every child should know.

Sep 27, Luann rated it really liked it Shelves: picture-book , caldecott-honor , , audio. Their whimsical nature pairs perfectly with the text in this book. The subtitle for this is "A book of manners for all occasions.

For example: "You are at the Princess' ball, and she is telling you a secret, but her orchestra of bears is making such a fearful lot of noise you cannot hear what she is saying. What do you say, dear? Every child should read this book at least once! Note: At my public library, this book is part of a kit which comes with an audio cassette of the story. There were two narrators, a man and a woman, who each did a fantastic job with their parts. I particularly liked the cowboy's accent.

Mar 21, Amelia Turvey rated it really liked it. Joslin, S. This book is about manners. It goes through different scenarios in which you are supposed to apologize. The media used by Sendak for this book was painting. While this book is comical, it also has a very good lesson to it. Manners are something that all children should know and from this book students it shows the funny side of saying you're sorry.

After reading this book it would be beneficial to have student Joslin, S. After reading this book it would be beneficial to have students go over what kind of things they should apologize for. I think this book should also be read towards the beginning of the year, so that way when conflict arises we as a class can refer back to this book.

Nov 25, Maria Rowe rated it it was amazing Shelves: childrens-books , read , caldecott-honor , doggies. Really fun book! Also, I really love the little dog in most of the illustrations! Materials used: unlisted Typeface used: unlisted Jun 16, Linda Lipko added it Shelves: children-s-illustrated-books , maurice-sendak-books. This is yet another book of illustrations that won the Caldecott Honor. Published in , it is one of Sendak's earlier works.

Using silly situations to discuss the topic of manners, the author and the illustrator working together do not preach, rather they suggest appropriate behavior. The words Thank you, please, beg your pardon, excuse me and may I please be excused were once a part of our everyday interaction. Sadly, our social mores of this generation have stretched to rude curtness. Feb 21, Stefanie Burns rated it really liked it Shelves: caldecott-honor. Imaginative story about what you should say when using your manners.

A made up scenario is given and then followed by the phrase, "What do you say, dear? Great story for making a picture in your mind and leads to great conversations about using manners.

The illustrations are only in black, white, and blue, but clear, silly,and interesting. The story was written in , but still Imaginative story about what you should say when using your manners. The story was written in , but still is entertaining and relative. Nov 07, Marguerite rated it it was amazing Recommended to Marguerite by: Mom.

Shelves: kids-stuff , read-over-and-over , giggle-worthy. This book -- a funny introduction to manners for children -- was so indelible that I carried it in my memories for three decades -- long enough for it to be reprinted and a search for it to bear fruit. The situations posed are silly, and made more so by Maurice Sendak's illustrations. But they do get the point across that life is improved with good manners and politeness.

Jun 12, Annie rated it it was ok. My favorite aspect of this book is that it is so cute and retro looking. The text is simple and easy for children to follow, but may be a little too easy. The illustrations are the same way. They are nice and simple, featuring a basic color profile of only black, white, and blue. While I can appreciate these things as an adult, i just don't know if this book still has what it takes to keep children interested.

Nov 09, Lafcadio rated it really liked it Shelves: released , west-end , caldecott , classy. A wonderful book about appropriate manners necessary in common situations: You are downtown and there is a gentleman giving baby elephants to people. You want to take one home because you have always wanted a baby elephant, but first the gentleman introduces you to each other. Jun 09, Emerson and Theodore rated it it was amazing. This book is not in Emerson's personal collection.

This is surprisingly the funniest children's book I have ever read! It is a book about manners but the stories are absolutely hilarious!

Great drawings by the recently departed Marice Sendak where the wild things are. I want to buy this book. A cute question and answer book about manners, this book won a Caldecott Honor award.

This book is way better than the "A Very Special House" that he illustrated for Ruth Krause, which won the Honor Award in , and the illustrations really made the book awesome and funny. Recommended for ages , 4 stars. Jan 20, Jayme rated it really liked it Shelves: picture-books. This is a charming little etiquette book aimed at teaching children manners through rather ridiculous scenarios--bitten by a dinosaur, bumped into a crocodile, fed so much spaghetti you can't get out of your chair--after which the reader is asked, "What do you say, dear?

Apr 08, Cheryl rated it it was ok. I didn't like this when I was kid. ISBN What Do You Say, Dear? Joslin, Sesyle. Publisher: HarperCollins , This specific ISBN edition is currently not available. View all copies of this ISBN edition:.

Synopsis About this title What do you say when: you bump into a crocodile on a crowded city street? This is the funniest book of manners you'll ever read! Review : "You have gone downtown to do some shopping. Ages 4 to 8 From the Back Cover : Delightfully absurd situations and elegant and exceedingly funny illustrations. Buy New Learn more about this copy.

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